Sorry that I haven't written a new blog in a very long time. For some reason I would try to write a blog and it wouldn't let me post it so I just got frustrated and stopped writing for a while. Well here I am back again and ready to explain what's been going on with me lately.
Well as far as weight loss is concerned, I am currently sitting at a 55lb weight loss overall. Very good, not exactly where I want to be. I was hoping to be under 300lbs by January 1st, right now I am sitting at 300.6lbs. Last week I weighed in and was 300lbs and had a .6lb gain this week. I didn't track as well as I should have and definitely didn't measure. I have to say that my mind is back focused and more ready than ever to lose this weight. My goal for 2012 is to lose 100lbs. I think it's possible. That's less than 10lbs a month, although I didn't do so well in January, so Feb. 1, I was bound and determined lol.
As far as dating goes...hmmm...lol. December 31, 2011 marked a very important day for me. I got rid of the douchebag lol. Yup, for good. We used to make up and break up quite often but I was bound and determined for this time to be the last and it has been, and I am SOOOOO happy! He pulled the final straw, which was made me drive all the way from my family,'s house two hours away, and when I was 15 minutes out before getting to his house, he texted me to tell me he decided to go out with his friends on New Year's Eve. Yeah I was done. For good.
So since then I have rejoined POF (plenty of fish) and have had some success. It's been really fun. The thing that gets on my nerves the most about online dating is the uncertainty of it all. Sometimes you just wanna call up the person and see if their voice is completely phsyco or not...but with online dating you can't give your number out to fast or that might scare them off and then you also can't talk right away, you have to text...it's really odd.
I have met a few people and went on actual dates. One with a guy that we went to Starbucks for coffee, and I of course had a grande skinny peppermint mocha and he got a frappucino and some banana nut bread that looked so good and when he kept asking me if I wanted some, it took everything I had not to have any. That was pretty much the most interesting part of the date, unfortunately. He kept calling me and texting, however I did what my friends and I call the Vicki-ize treatment. It's after my friend Vicki who if she doesn't like a date she goes on or doesn't want to talk to you, completely and utterly never answers your calls/texts etc. So I Vicki-ized him, unfortunately. He was super nice, but he was 42. I am 28. Although I do definitely date older, you could really tell that there was a huge age difference and he was ready to retire not start a life lol. I also met this guy named Calvin. He is super nice. We continue to talk, however he goes to school Monday-Thursday from 5pm-9pm and has his two sons every other week. Which in tune makes it very hard for us to make time together because I work during the day and then most weekends am pretty busy with the gym, grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, hanging out with friends etc. So although we still talk, I am not sure where that will go. I am still keeping my options open.
Then there is Mr. Henderson....the guy I told you about in my last blog. We still talk. Haven't hung out yet, but looking forward to doing so soon. Don't get me wrong, I am not a slut or anything, I just think it's important at this point not to really settle lol. There is also this other guy that just messaged me from POF that we have been talking all week and so we will see where that goes too. Hmmm...lol
Back in December, when the douchebag and I were ok in our relationship, I had received a message from this guy here in El Paso that said he was interested in me and wanted to get to know me. I looked at his profile prior to respond just to get an idea of what I would be passing up, because of course things were ok with douchebag, and I am truly faithful, sometimes to a fault. His profile said he was 5'8. Ok I am 5'10, so that was a huge red flag to me. I don't date people who are shorter than me. It's a huge turn off and although I can't wear heels anymore due to my leg injury last year, and the fact that I can't walk correctly in them, if I ever can, I would feel super uncomfortable going into public and towering over a guy. I wrote him back and told him thank you for the interest however, I didn't feel like we would have a good connection due to the fact that he was shorter and I don't date shorter guys. He responded back saying that good things come in small packages and for pretty much the whole month of December would send me random messages trying to get my attention...but never worked because I was still with douche bag. Well finally in January, he sent me another message, this time grabbing my attention. I can't really remember what it said, but something about wondering how my tall ass is doing lol. Somehow that made me laugh and I wrote back telling him I would give him a shot. The first night we just hung out and got to know each other. The second night he cooked me dinner. Now this is where I really started to like him. He had added me to facebook the day before. Obviously most of my posts on FB are related somehow to my weight loss. After reading that, when he made me dinner, he brought me a big salad before the meal. He had asked that afternoon if having pasta was gonna be ok, and I said yeah absolutely, but knowing that I was on a diet, he made me a large salad and said I know your watching what you eat (never said on a diet), so you can fill up on this salad before the pasta so it doesn't completely ruin everything for you. I thought how sweet. He actually read my facebook. He actually cared enough to get to know me. To learn about me. It made me feel so good. His name is Dre, and we have been hanging out ever since. The problem, he is in the military, and on his way out. I knew after he got out of the military he would be moving back to Philadelphia, where he was from originally, but he said he had a couple of months before that happened. I figured that I would like to see where this went and maybe it wouldn't even turn into anything. Well we just found out today that he will get his orders next Wednesday. Which means he has 5 business days after to move back to Philadelphia for the military to pay for his move. Yeah...that sucks big time because I am already starting to develop a likeness for this guy. Some potential feelings.
Well on to the subject of this blog....banjo and the foil. So before I was with douchebag, I had been dating on plenty of fish and I met this guy, I honestly can't remember his name. We started talking through messaging on POF, then we started texting. Then we decided to meet for a date. Now this guy was cute, not hot on his pictures. He looked normal and decent. Looks can be deceiving. So we decided to meet for coffee at Starbucks. I got there, and I get out of my car and started walking to the door. To the right of me, I see him walking towards me. I was so shocked. I had my phone in my hand and quickly texted my friend OMG...help! The dude was black of course, walking towards me in a pair of black cowboy boots, black slacks, a black and white short sleeved button down short with a wife beater underneath, a do(sp?) rag with a cowboy hat on top. I was like are you kidding me right now? Seriously?!?!?!
We walked in and got coffee. We started talking and seemed like we had a lot in common other than the whole looks thing. He asked what I was going to be doing afterwards and I didn't have any plans and he invited me to his apartment to watch a movie. Probably not the best decision I could make to go over to a man's apartment I just barely met, but I was bored and had nothing better to do. So I followed him to his apartment, which by the way was in a really bad part of town. I was scared. So we go up to his apartment, I walk in. Typical man place. I could stand in the living room and see every part of the apartment. Kitchen, bathroom, dining room, bedroom, everything. I started looking around, and noticed, there is no TV. I asked him about it and he said he doesn't believe in TV's cause he thinks the government is out to invade people's minds and brain wash people with tv's. So I then asked how the heck are we gonna watch a movie if there is no TV. He said on his computer. To me, wouldn't that also be a way for the government to read your mind? Just sayin'.
I sat down on his futon/couch and he turned on his computer and asked what movie I wanted to see. I said I didn't care because really that's a loaded question lol. He was like oh ok let's watch my favorite movie...ok I thought. He turns on this documentary feed on you tube in regards to the whole conspiracy theory that the government is out to get us. I was like really, really??? So because I was completely bored with the movie, and those kinds of things do not interest me because frankly I do not believe it, I started to make conversations with him. I asked him about his childhood, what he did before he moved to El Paso (which was live in Afghanistan on his way to becoming full on Islamic and joining Al-Quaeda). Yeah, totally freaked out at this point, he could tell and said that he realized while doing that, it wasn't for him and that's why he moved back to the states. I then asked if he wanted to have kids. His answer was priceless. He began to tell me that yes he wanted kids but he had drank a lot of tap water growing up. I was like what the heck does tap water have to do with wanting to have kids. He said that the government has put different things into tap water trying to sterilize America because they don't want over population. I started laughing and asked if he was serious. He was very serious. So then he asked if he could take his hat off and get comfortable I was like it's your house, you don't need to ask me, so he takes his cowboy hat off, and there, on top of his head on top of the do(sp?) rag, sat a shiny piece of foil. Yes, I said foil. I asked what it was for and he said so the government didn't read his thoughts. I laughed so hard I thought I was gonna pee myself. We had made plans for the next day to hang out, I don't know why. Don't ask me, because I honestly have no idea what I was thinking. The next day I waited for him to call or text and he never did. That evening I got notified by him that he moved someone into his apartment that had a bad situation going on and that he would be in contact with me soon. The next day he texted me to tell me that before he met me, he was also talking to someone else and that she had a bad situation at home and they decided to take their relationship to the next level, her moving in. OMG...are you serious? I was like ok cool, do your thing dude. Then thinking about it later, I was like what the heck was I thinking....I need to be smarter lol.
So that's it...that's my story...lol
Until the next time!
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