So back in December, the week before New Years, I went to my weight watchers meeting and it was packed with people who were trying to get in to start their new years resolutions early. My normal spot where I sit was occupied so I sat across the room in an empty row. In front of me, there were also about 20 seats open. In walked this gorgeous guy, why he was there to lose weight is beyond me because he looked hot. He walked in, dressed in his PT uniform (so obviously military), signed in, and looked around the room and sat down in the seat right next to me. Why right next to me, I have no idea. There were plenty of seats in front of me, and to the side, but he chose the seat right next to me. We started talking (aka, flirting) with one another, and I left for the evening. The next week I was bound and determined to flirt some more with him. But he didn't stay for the meeting and left after weigh in. I was super disappointed. In preparation for the third week, in my purse I put a piece of paper with my name and number on it so I could just easily hand it to him. But bad part was....he never showed up to the meeting, and hasn't been back since.
I was so disappointed. Sometimes, depending on my time schedule and if my friend Chante is gonna work out with me, I go to the gym on Ft. Bliss. I really like it a lot because it's like a brand new state of the art gym, has an indoor track to run on and really nice equipment. On Monday night, my friend Chante and I were getting our skinny on in the gym, and I had to leave by 6:30pm to be somewhere. Chante was gonna stay to watch her husband play basketball downstairs, and as we were walking down the stairs, I asked her if she wanted me to walk her to the basketball courts, and she told me no, don't worry about it, to go ahead and leave. So I did.
Now, I may be exaggerating slightly, but the walk from the gym on Ft. Bliss to the parking lot seems like a good 3 mile hike. NO JOKE!!! I always say that I walk 3 miles in, do my workout, and 3 miles out. So as I was going on my 3 mile hike to my car, I was busy on my phone following up on a few emails and reading facebook. I passed this guy that looked really familiar but couldn't place him, and he turned around and said "Hey don't I know you?" I turned around, looked at him, and realized exactly who it was. It was the guy from my weight watchers meeting that was stinking HOTTTT!!!!
There was a lot of people walking the 3 mile hike pathway, so we moved to the side and started talking, catching up. He was telling me he had been out in the field for a while and was catching up with the weight loss thing. I told him that I was gonna give him my number to see if he ever needed help with WW, or if he needed a workout buddy but he never ended up showing up again. We exchanged numbers, and went on our way.
Later that night he texted me telling me that he forgot to tell me earlier that I am looking really good. I told him thanks and that I had to admit something to him, that I had a huge crush on him. He replied saying he figured as much, and that I am cute, but that he was married :(((((((....UGHHHHHH
I was busy doing something at the time and couldn't reply back but told him that I understood and have a good night. The next morning (yesterday), he texted me telling me to have a good day. I was like why are you texting me if you are married. He said he would really like to have a workout buddy, and that although he is married, he wanted to make sure he was completely honest and upfront about that fact, but he is also going through a divorce. Now, I am not completely sure about the whole situation or details because we didn't really get into it because to me that would be an in person conversation, but hey, in the process of him getting a divorce we could develop a really good friendship and work out together, and then see where it takes us.
I had gotten off work early yesterday and went to the gym on Ft. Bliss before my weight watchers meeting last night and I had texted him to see if he was able to go with me. He was still stuck at work but was trying to get out as soon as possible. I tried to extend my workout as long as possible so that I could see him, and he had texted me just as I was wrapping up my workout and said he was just getting to the gym. I told him I was on my way down and would meet him in the parking lot. We met up, and talked for about 20 minutes just about our back stories, etc. It was really nice.
Now to see where this might take me...I am excited, but I know he is married and not letting myself forget that, and also wanting to know more details....
So I weighed in last night and am officially at 65lbs total lost. It's exciting. Even more so, I was looking through my purse today trying to find a receipt tag for some clothes I had dropped off at the tailor to get altered so that I could go pick up the rest of them, and I stumbled upon my bucket list. I created this bucket list about 7 years ago, and I have been able to cross a few things off it, but I was able today to cross off almost 6 things. One of which was to lose 50lbs...I was so happy with myself that I was not only able to cross that off, but also exceeded that, and that was a goal I put on there and could never imagine seeing myself obtain. It was such a great feeling!
Until next time!
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Lent and the best pickup line ever
So today is the start of Lent. Now, mind you, I am not Catholic, I am Christian, but normally Catholics are the primary religion to practice and participate in the Lent traditions. My grandfather was Catholic, although not a practicing one, nonetheless still a Catholic. I have participated in the Lent traditions for quite some time now. Almost 11 years. I take pride in knowing I am giving something up for 40/41(leap year) and knowing that I don't eat meat on Ash Wednesday, and on Fridays.
In the past I have given up everything from soda, sweet tea, Taco Bell, McDonalds, Starbucks (see you can tell they are all food related, because I have always had problems with food). So this year, I was lost for ideas on what to give up. I started asking around to people who participate in Lent, and got a few ideas. I asked a co-worker what she was giving up and she said that years ago, when her and her husband were stationed in Germany, instead of giving something up, her church and priest asked that they pay something forward or start something new. Such as random acts of kidness or starting a new activity, etc. It gave me some great ideas.
I also started talking to my friend Chante who is also part of weight watchers. She is also not Catholic, but always participates in Lent if she has a friend that is participating. More like being a support system. We have both kind of been not exactly on track with WW lately, and trying to come up with something to help re-kickstart our weight loss. I have been overly addicted to hot wings lately, and her ice cream, so we are both giving those up for 41 days. We have also decided to start something, we have pledged to stay on plan for 41 days. To make sure of this, we are both putting 41 dollars (a dollar a day) in, and each day we stay on plan, we put a dollar in our individual pot. If we don't stay on plan, we have to put a dollar into the other person's pot. At the end of it, we are going to do something special with the money, like a pedicure or something. I am also giving up plenty of fish, the dating website I am on. And she has pledged to write a blog a day, which she says normally helps her stay on plan and stay accountable.
We have also gotten her husband in on it too. He is giving up chips, pledging to do pushups and situps each day, and we are all pledging to go to a local park each Sunday to run/walk together. I am very excited due to the fact I have a pretty nice support system helping in this whole Lent process.
So on to the best pickup line ever. See, I am 5'10, and I normally never date anyone shorter than me. Well this guy, I previously had talked about before on here, had approached me on plenty of fish wanting to date me. He was 5'8, and there was no way I was gonna date him. Well he one day messaged me and made me laugh asking me how my tall a** was doing, it made me laugh, so I gave him my number. When he finally messaged me he asked how I was doing. I said fine, what are you up to. He then used the best pickup line I can ever imagine. He said not much, just got home from buying my new step ladder. It made me laugh so hard because he needed a step ladder because I was so tall. It worked.
Anyway...I hope everyone is doing good losing weight. I wish everyone good fortune with their weight loss journey.
Until next time...
In the past I have given up everything from soda, sweet tea, Taco Bell, McDonalds, Starbucks (see you can tell they are all food related, because I have always had problems with food). So this year, I was lost for ideas on what to give up. I started asking around to people who participate in Lent, and got a few ideas. I asked a co-worker what she was giving up and she said that years ago, when her and her husband were stationed in Germany, instead of giving something up, her church and priest asked that they pay something forward or start something new. Such as random acts of kidness or starting a new activity, etc. It gave me some great ideas.
I also started talking to my friend Chante who is also part of weight watchers. She is also not Catholic, but always participates in Lent if she has a friend that is participating. More like being a support system. We have both kind of been not exactly on track with WW lately, and trying to come up with something to help re-kickstart our weight loss. I have been overly addicted to hot wings lately, and her ice cream, so we are both giving those up for 41 days. We have also decided to start something, we have pledged to stay on plan for 41 days. To make sure of this, we are both putting 41 dollars (a dollar a day) in, and each day we stay on plan, we put a dollar in our individual pot. If we don't stay on plan, we have to put a dollar into the other person's pot. At the end of it, we are going to do something special with the money, like a pedicure or something. I am also giving up plenty of fish, the dating website I am on. And she has pledged to write a blog a day, which she says normally helps her stay on plan and stay accountable.
We have also gotten her husband in on it too. He is giving up chips, pledging to do pushups and situps each day, and we are all pledging to go to a local park each Sunday to run/walk together. I am very excited due to the fact I have a pretty nice support system helping in this whole Lent process.
So on to the best pickup line ever. See, I am 5'10, and I normally never date anyone shorter than me. Well this guy, I previously had talked about before on here, had approached me on plenty of fish wanting to date me. He was 5'8, and there was no way I was gonna date him. Well he one day messaged me and made me laugh asking me how my tall a** was doing, it made me laugh, so I gave him my number. When he finally messaged me he asked how I was doing. I said fine, what are you up to. He then used the best pickup line I can ever imagine. He said not much, just got home from buying my new step ladder. It made me laugh so hard because he needed a step ladder because I was so tall. It worked.
Anyway...I hope everyone is doing good losing weight. I wish everyone good fortune with their weight loss journey.
Until next time...
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
300 and Valentines Day
It's something I never thought I would get to....
I wanted to be under 300lbs by New Years Eve...that didn't happen so much, so I kept going, bound and determined to make it. Every week, either a loss that didn't get me to my goal, or a gain that set me back even further. I actually made it to under 300lbs last week at WI, but am just now getting to be able to write this blog.
Last night at WI, I was a little scared that I might have gained because I didn't really eat the best all weekend, but I did maintain my vigerous workout schedule of 6 times a week last week. I am proud to report a 2.8lb loss. Now I am at 294.6. It's an amazing feeling. It only took me 5 weeks longer than I wanted and/or anticipated, but I did it! I don't ever wanna be over that big hump again. I like the fact that I can now say I am a 200lb girl instead of a 300lb girl.
I can remember when I was in my second year of college and decided to take a semester off from school and started working at the first bank I worked at, and I started the Atkins diet. I weighed in at that time around 312lbs. That was probably the first time I had weighed myself in a veryyyyy long time. I can't tell you how much I weighed in high school, but I want to say somewhere close to that range.
So now when I say my weight, I say to people it's the first time I have weighed this little since high school, which by the way is 11 years ago when I graduated. It makes me soooo happy! I can't express in words how happy it makes me because it seemed like something I would never reach. Now I am at 61.8lb total lost. That makes me even happier...61.8lbs!!!! Wow.
So yesterday was Valentines Day. And I am single this year. Well, I am single every year, so it really doesn't matter, but this year, unlike most I was a little depressed. Normally my mom will send me flowers or an edible arrangement or something to work. So I don't feel completely left out when all the girls I work with get all these flowers. This year for financial reasons we are both cutting back on buying things for each other, so I didn't expect her to get me anything, but with nobody else buying me anything it seemed a bit depressing. I didn't want to go home to an empty house so I went to the gym and then to my weight watchers meeting. After I went home, and was supposed to be meeting someone there that was going to be delivering some stuff I needed, but they didn't show up, so I ended up just hanging out with an old friend catching up. We were up to 430 this morning and I finally went to sleep and got a phone call at 5:30, that woke me up and I couldn't go back to sleep. So yeah, working on about 1 hour of sleep with a major migraine. But all in all, even though a bit depressing, I got through it, and it turned out to be a really good day afterall.
I hope you all are doing well. Until next time...
I wanted to be under 300lbs by New Years Eve...that didn't happen so much, so I kept going, bound and determined to make it. Every week, either a loss that didn't get me to my goal, or a gain that set me back even further. I actually made it to under 300lbs last week at WI, but am just now getting to be able to write this blog.
Last night at WI, I was a little scared that I might have gained because I didn't really eat the best all weekend, but I did maintain my vigerous workout schedule of 6 times a week last week. I am proud to report a 2.8lb loss. Now I am at 294.6. It's an amazing feeling. It only took me 5 weeks longer than I wanted and/or anticipated, but I did it! I don't ever wanna be over that big hump again. I like the fact that I can now say I am a 200lb girl instead of a 300lb girl.
I can remember when I was in my second year of college and decided to take a semester off from school and started working at the first bank I worked at, and I started the Atkins diet. I weighed in at that time around 312lbs. That was probably the first time I had weighed myself in a veryyyyy long time. I can't tell you how much I weighed in high school, but I want to say somewhere close to that range.
So now when I say my weight, I say to people it's the first time I have weighed this little since high school, which by the way is 11 years ago when I graduated. It makes me soooo happy! I can't express in words how happy it makes me because it seemed like something I would never reach. Now I am at 61.8lb total lost. That makes me even happier...61.8lbs!!!! Wow.
So yesterday was Valentines Day. And I am single this year. Well, I am single every year, so it really doesn't matter, but this year, unlike most I was a little depressed. Normally my mom will send me flowers or an edible arrangement or something to work. So I don't feel completely left out when all the girls I work with get all these flowers. This year for financial reasons we are both cutting back on buying things for each other, so I didn't expect her to get me anything, but with nobody else buying me anything it seemed a bit depressing. I didn't want to go home to an empty house so I went to the gym and then to my weight watchers meeting. After I went home, and was supposed to be meeting someone there that was going to be delivering some stuff I needed, but they didn't show up, so I ended up just hanging out with an old friend catching up. We were up to 430 this morning and I finally went to sleep and got a phone call at 5:30, that woke me up and I couldn't go back to sleep. So yeah, working on about 1 hour of sleep with a major migraine. But all in all, even though a bit depressing, I got through it, and it turned out to be a really good day afterall.
I hope you all are doing well. Until next time...
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Banjo and the foil
Sorry that I haven't written a new blog in a very long time. For some reason I would try to write a blog and it wouldn't let me post it so I just got frustrated and stopped writing for a while. Well here I am back again and ready to explain what's been going on with me lately.
Well as far as weight loss is concerned, I am currently sitting at a 55lb weight loss overall. Very good, not exactly where I want to be. I was hoping to be under 300lbs by January 1st, right now I am sitting at 300.6lbs. Last week I weighed in and was 300lbs and had a .6lb gain this week. I didn't track as well as I should have and definitely didn't measure. I have to say that my mind is back focused and more ready than ever to lose this weight. My goal for 2012 is to lose 100lbs. I think it's possible. That's less than 10lbs a month, although I didn't do so well in January, so Feb. 1, I was bound and determined lol.
As far as dating goes...hmmm...lol. December 31, 2011 marked a very important day for me. I got rid of the douchebag lol. Yup, for good. We used to make up and break up quite often but I was bound and determined for this time to be the last and it has been, and I am SOOOOO happy! He pulled the final straw, which was made me drive all the way from my family,'s house two hours away, and when I was 15 minutes out before getting to his house, he texted me to tell me he decided to go out with his friends on New Year's Eve. Yeah I was done. For good.
So since then I have rejoined POF (plenty of fish) and have had some success. It's been really fun. The thing that gets on my nerves the most about online dating is the uncertainty of it all. Sometimes you just wanna call up the person and see if their voice is completely phsyco or not...but with online dating you can't give your number out to fast or that might scare them off and then you also can't talk right away, you have to text...it's really odd.
I have met a few people and went on actual dates. One with a guy that we went to Starbucks for coffee, and I of course had a grande skinny peppermint mocha and he got a frappucino and some banana nut bread that looked so good and when he kept asking me if I wanted some, it took everything I had not to have any. That was pretty much the most interesting part of the date, unfortunately. He kept calling me and texting, however I did what my friends and I call the Vicki-ize treatment. It's after my friend Vicki who if she doesn't like a date she goes on or doesn't want to talk to you, completely and utterly never answers your calls/texts etc. So I Vicki-ized him, unfortunately. He was super nice, but he was 42. I am 28. Although I do definitely date older, you could really tell that there was a huge age difference and he was ready to retire not start a life lol. I also met this guy named Calvin. He is super nice. We continue to talk, however he goes to school Monday-Thursday from 5pm-9pm and has his two sons every other week. Which in tune makes it very hard for us to make time together because I work during the day and then most weekends am pretty busy with the gym, grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, hanging out with friends etc. So although we still talk, I am not sure where that will go. I am still keeping my options open.
Then there is Mr. Henderson....the guy I told you about in my last blog. We still talk. Haven't hung out yet, but looking forward to doing so soon. Don't get me wrong, I am not a slut or anything, I just think it's important at this point not to really settle lol. There is also this other guy that just messaged me from POF that we have been talking all week and so we will see where that goes too. Hmmm...lol
Back in December, when the douchebag and I were ok in our relationship, I had received a message from this guy here in El Paso that said he was interested in me and wanted to get to know me. I looked at his profile prior to respond just to get an idea of what I would be passing up, because of course things were ok with douchebag, and I am truly faithful, sometimes to a fault. His profile said he was 5'8. Ok I am 5'10, so that was a huge red flag to me. I don't date people who are shorter than me. It's a huge turn off and although I can't wear heels anymore due to my leg injury last year, and the fact that I can't walk correctly in them, if I ever can, I would feel super uncomfortable going into public and towering over a guy. I wrote him back and told him thank you for the interest however, I didn't feel like we would have a good connection due to the fact that he was shorter and I don't date shorter guys. He responded back saying that good things come in small packages and for pretty much the whole month of December would send me random messages trying to get my attention...but never worked because I was still with douche bag. Well finally in January, he sent me another message, this time grabbing my attention. I can't really remember what it said, but something about wondering how my tall ass is doing lol. Somehow that made me laugh and I wrote back telling him I would give him a shot. The first night we just hung out and got to know each other. The second night he cooked me dinner. Now this is where I really started to like him. He had added me to facebook the day before. Obviously most of my posts on FB are related somehow to my weight loss. After reading that, when he made me dinner, he brought me a big salad before the meal. He had asked that afternoon if having pasta was gonna be ok, and I said yeah absolutely, but knowing that I was on a diet, he made me a large salad and said I know your watching what you eat (never said on a diet), so you can fill up on this salad before the pasta so it doesn't completely ruin everything for you. I thought how sweet. He actually read my facebook. He actually cared enough to get to know me. To learn about me. It made me feel so good. His name is Dre, and we have been hanging out ever since. The problem, he is in the military, and on his way out. I knew after he got out of the military he would be moving back to Philadelphia, where he was from originally, but he said he had a couple of months before that happened. I figured that I would like to see where this went and maybe it wouldn't even turn into anything. Well we just found out today that he will get his orders next Wednesday. Which means he has 5 business days after to move back to Philadelphia for the military to pay for his move. Yeah...that sucks big time because I am already starting to develop a likeness for this guy. Some potential feelings.
Well on to the subject of this blog....banjo and the foil. So before I was with douchebag, I had been dating on plenty of fish and I met this guy, I honestly can't remember his name. We started talking through messaging on POF, then we started texting. Then we decided to meet for a date. Now this guy was cute, not hot on his pictures. He looked normal and decent. Looks can be deceiving. So we decided to meet for coffee at Starbucks. I got there, and I get out of my car and started walking to the door. To the right of me, I see him walking towards me. I was so shocked. I had my phone in my hand and quickly texted my friend OMG...help! The dude was black of course, walking towards me in a pair of black cowboy boots, black slacks, a black and white short sleeved button down short with a wife beater underneath, a do(sp?) rag with a cowboy hat on top. I was like are you kidding me right now? Seriously?!?!?!
We walked in and got coffee. We started talking and seemed like we had a lot in common other than the whole looks thing. He asked what I was going to be doing afterwards and I didn't have any plans and he invited me to his apartment to watch a movie. Probably not the best decision I could make to go over to a man's apartment I just barely met, but I was bored and had nothing better to do. So I followed him to his apartment, which by the way was in a really bad part of town. I was scared. So we go up to his apartment, I walk in. Typical man place. I could stand in the living room and see every part of the apartment. Kitchen, bathroom, dining room, bedroom, everything. I started looking around, and noticed, there is no TV. I asked him about it and he said he doesn't believe in TV's cause he thinks the government is out to invade people's minds and brain wash people with tv's. So I then asked how the heck are we gonna watch a movie if there is no TV. He said on his computer. To me, wouldn't that also be a way for the government to read your mind? Just sayin'.
I sat down on his futon/couch and he turned on his computer and asked what movie I wanted to see. I said I didn't care because really that's a loaded question lol. He was like oh ok let's watch my favorite movie...ok I thought. He turns on this documentary feed on you tube in regards to the whole conspiracy theory that the government is out to get us. I was like really, really??? So because I was completely bored with the movie, and those kinds of things do not interest me because frankly I do not believe it, I started to make conversations with him. I asked him about his childhood, what he did before he moved to El Paso (which was live in Afghanistan on his way to becoming full on Islamic and joining Al-Quaeda). Yeah, totally freaked out at this point, he could tell and said that he realized while doing that, it wasn't for him and that's why he moved back to the states. I then asked if he wanted to have kids. His answer was priceless. He began to tell me that yes he wanted kids but he had drank a lot of tap water growing up. I was like what the heck does tap water have to do with wanting to have kids. He said that the government has put different things into tap water trying to sterilize America because they don't want over population. I started laughing and asked if he was serious. He was very serious. So then he asked if he could take his hat off and get comfortable I was like it's your house, you don't need to ask me, so he takes his cowboy hat off, and there, on top of his head on top of the do(sp?) rag, sat a shiny piece of foil. Yes, I said foil. I asked what it was for and he said so the government didn't read his thoughts. I laughed so hard I thought I was gonna pee myself. We had made plans for the next day to hang out, I don't know why. Don't ask me, because I honestly have no idea what I was thinking. The next day I waited for him to call or text and he never did. That evening I got notified by him that he moved someone into his apartment that had a bad situation going on and that he would be in contact with me soon. The next day he texted me to tell me that before he met me, he was also talking to someone else and that she had a bad situation at home and they decided to take their relationship to the next level, her moving in. OMG...are you serious? I was like ok cool, do your thing dude. Then thinking about it later, I was like what the heck was I thinking....I need to be smarter lol.
So that's it...that's my story...lol
Until the next time!
Well as far as weight loss is concerned, I am currently sitting at a 55lb weight loss overall. Very good, not exactly where I want to be. I was hoping to be under 300lbs by January 1st, right now I am sitting at 300.6lbs. Last week I weighed in and was 300lbs and had a .6lb gain this week. I didn't track as well as I should have and definitely didn't measure. I have to say that my mind is back focused and more ready than ever to lose this weight. My goal for 2012 is to lose 100lbs. I think it's possible. That's less than 10lbs a month, although I didn't do so well in January, so Feb. 1, I was bound and determined lol.
As far as dating goes...hmmm...lol. December 31, 2011 marked a very important day for me. I got rid of the douchebag lol. Yup, for good. We used to make up and break up quite often but I was bound and determined for this time to be the last and it has been, and I am SOOOOO happy! He pulled the final straw, which was made me drive all the way from my family,'s house two hours away, and when I was 15 minutes out before getting to his house, he texted me to tell me he decided to go out with his friends on New Year's Eve. Yeah I was done. For good.
So since then I have rejoined POF (plenty of fish) and have had some success. It's been really fun. The thing that gets on my nerves the most about online dating is the uncertainty of it all. Sometimes you just wanna call up the person and see if their voice is completely phsyco or not...but with online dating you can't give your number out to fast or that might scare them off and then you also can't talk right away, you have to text...it's really odd.
I have met a few people and went on actual dates. One with a guy that we went to Starbucks for coffee, and I of course had a grande skinny peppermint mocha and he got a frappucino and some banana nut bread that looked so good and when he kept asking me if I wanted some, it took everything I had not to have any. That was pretty much the most interesting part of the date, unfortunately. He kept calling me and texting, however I did what my friends and I call the Vicki-ize treatment. It's after my friend Vicki who if she doesn't like a date she goes on or doesn't want to talk to you, completely and utterly never answers your calls/texts etc. So I Vicki-ized him, unfortunately. He was super nice, but he was 42. I am 28. Although I do definitely date older, you could really tell that there was a huge age difference and he was ready to retire not start a life lol. I also met this guy named Calvin. He is super nice. We continue to talk, however he goes to school Monday-Thursday from 5pm-9pm and has his two sons every other week. Which in tune makes it very hard for us to make time together because I work during the day and then most weekends am pretty busy with the gym, grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, hanging out with friends etc. So although we still talk, I am not sure where that will go. I am still keeping my options open.
Then there is Mr. Henderson....the guy I told you about in my last blog. We still talk. Haven't hung out yet, but looking forward to doing so soon. Don't get me wrong, I am not a slut or anything, I just think it's important at this point not to really settle lol. There is also this other guy that just messaged me from POF that we have been talking all week and so we will see where that goes too. Hmmm...lol
Back in December, when the douchebag and I were ok in our relationship, I had received a message from this guy here in El Paso that said he was interested in me and wanted to get to know me. I looked at his profile prior to respond just to get an idea of what I would be passing up, because of course things were ok with douchebag, and I am truly faithful, sometimes to a fault. His profile said he was 5'8. Ok I am 5'10, so that was a huge red flag to me. I don't date people who are shorter than me. It's a huge turn off and although I can't wear heels anymore due to my leg injury last year, and the fact that I can't walk correctly in them, if I ever can, I would feel super uncomfortable going into public and towering over a guy. I wrote him back and told him thank you for the interest however, I didn't feel like we would have a good connection due to the fact that he was shorter and I don't date shorter guys. He responded back saying that good things come in small packages and for pretty much the whole month of December would send me random messages trying to get my attention...but never worked because I was still with douche bag. Well finally in January, he sent me another message, this time grabbing my attention. I can't really remember what it said, but something about wondering how my tall ass is doing lol. Somehow that made me laugh and I wrote back telling him I would give him a shot. The first night we just hung out and got to know each other. The second night he cooked me dinner. Now this is where I really started to like him. He had added me to facebook the day before. Obviously most of my posts on FB are related somehow to my weight loss. After reading that, when he made me dinner, he brought me a big salad before the meal. He had asked that afternoon if having pasta was gonna be ok, and I said yeah absolutely, but knowing that I was on a diet, he made me a large salad and said I know your watching what you eat (never said on a diet), so you can fill up on this salad before the pasta so it doesn't completely ruin everything for you. I thought how sweet. He actually read my facebook. He actually cared enough to get to know me. To learn about me. It made me feel so good. His name is Dre, and we have been hanging out ever since. The problem, he is in the military, and on his way out. I knew after he got out of the military he would be moving back to Philadelphia, where he was from originally, but he said he had a couple of months before that happened. I figured that I would like to see where this went and maybe it wouldn't even turn into anything. Well we just found out today that he will get his orders next Wednesday. Which means he has 5 business days after to move back to Philadelphia for the military to pay for his move. Yeah...that sucks big time because I am already starting to develop a likeness for this guy. Some potential feelings.
Well on to the subject of this blog....banjo and the foil. So before I was with douchebag, I had been dating on plenty of fish and I met this guy, I honestly can't remember his name. We started talking through messaging on POF, then we started texting. Then we decided to meet for a date. Now this guy was cute, not hot on his pictures. He looked normal and decent. Looks can be deceiving. So we decided to meet for coffee at Starbucks. I got there, and I get out of my car and started walking to the door. To the right of me, I see him walking towards me. I was so shocked. I had my phone in my hand and quickly texted my friend OMG...help! The dude was black of course, walking towards me in a pair of black cowboy boots, black slacks, a black and white short sleeved button down short with a wife beater underneath, a do(sp?) rag with a cowboy hat on top. I was like are you kidding me right now? Seriously?!?!?!
We walked in and got coffee. We started talking and seemed like we had a lot in common other than the whole looks thing. He asked what I was going to be doing afterwards and I didn't have any plans and he invited me to his apartment to watch a movie. Probably not the best decision I could make to go over to a man's apartment I just barely met, but I was bored and had nothing better to do. So I followed him to his apartment, which by the way was in a really bad part of town. I was scared. So we go up to his apartment, I walk in. Typical man place. I could stand in the living room and see every part of the apartment. Kitchen, bathroom, dining room, bedroom, everything. I started looking around, and noticed, there is no TV. I asked him about it and he said he doesn't believe in TV's cause he thinks the government is out to invade people's minds and brain wash people with tv's. So I then asked how the heck are we gonna watch a movie if there is no TV. He said on his computer. To me, wouldn't that also be a way for the government to read your mind? Just sayin'.
I sat down on his futon/couch and he turned on his computer and asked what movie I wanted to see. I said I didn't care because really that's a loaded question lol. He was like oh ok let's watch my favorite movie...ok I thought. He turns on this documentary feed on you tube in regards to the whole conspiracy theory that the government is out to get us. I was like really, really??? So because I was completely bored with the movie, and those kinds of things do not interest me because frankly I do not believe it, I started to make conversations with him. I asked him about his childhood, what he did before he moved to El Paso (which was live in Afghanistan on his way to becoming full on Islamic and joining Al-Quaeda). Yeah, totally freaked out at this point, he could tell and said that he realized while doing that, it wasn't for him and that's why he moved back to the states. I then asked if he wanted to have kids. His answer was priceless. He began to tell me that yes he wanted kids but he had drank a lot of tap water growing up. I was like what the heck does tap water have to do with wanting to have kids. He said that the government has put different things into tap water trying to sterilize America because they don't want over population. I started laughing and asked if he was serious. He was very serious. So then he asked if he could take his hat off and get comfortable I was like it's your house, you don't need to ask me, so he takes his cowboy hat off, and there, on top of his head on top of the do(sp?) rag, sat a shiny piece of foil. Yes, I said foil. I asked what it was for and he said so the government didn't read his thoughts. I laughed so hard I thought I was gonna pee myself. We had made plans for the next day to hang out, I don't know why. Don't ask me, because I honestly have no idea what I was thinking. The next day I waited for him to call or text and he never did. That evening I got notified by him that he moved someone into his apartment that had a bad situation going on and that he would be in contact with me soon. The next day he texted me to tell me that before he met me, he was also talking to someone else and that she had a bad situation at home and they decided to take their relationship to the next level, her moving in. OMG...are you serious? I was like ok cool, do your thing dude. Then thinking about it later, I was like what the heck was I thinking....I need to be smarter lol.
So that's it...that's my story...lol
Until the next time!
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